With everything going on these days, it’s helpful to have some different perspectives and extra tools to get us through the day. Here are a few for you to try. 1. Recognize that you are carrying a heavy load. It really is a load, and it really is heavy. Your conscious mind may have relegated […]
I was listening to Tim Ferriss’ podcast with Walter Isaacson, president of the Aspen Institute, author of the Steve Jobs biography and most recently the biography of Leonardo daVinci. Something he said struck me — he always likes to physically visit the things he is writing about. For example, he went to Venice and persuaded […]
In my ongoing exploration of paths of transformation, I’ve tried a lot of different things. Some have been pretty good, some of been wrong-thing or wrong-time; a few have been life-changing. I wanted to share the top four of the life-changing variety. I’m not including things like “getting married” or “having kids,” though they certainly […]
As a therapist, I’ve worked with people on issues that run the full gamut of life, from the devastatingly traumatizing to the relatively benign. To me, the issues are all real, all deserving of honoring. Some of my clients feel guilty about having trouble with issues they feel they should be able to just “get […]
After doing the neurofeedback intensive – doing sessions twice a day for 30 days – I was curious to see how the transformations I experienced would hold up. Helpfully, two of my clients wanted to try it too, and they went through their own transformative process. So now we have an N = 3. Common […]
One of the elusive promises that has pulled me forward and inspired many of my explorations has been the one that if I just find the right Answer – especially about who I am and what I’m “supposed” to be doing here in this lifetime – then I will get “there” and life will finally […]
First let me say that I do better with shorter, more intensive experiences than longer, more drawn out and systematic experiences. I’m better at sprints than marathons. This experiment was definitely an all-out sprint, and would not be suited for those whose systems prefer marathons. Inspired by a post in a neurofeedback community, I did […]
Anthony Ross has worked extensively in developing mental toughness in tennis players, and he has some great insights. In the article below, he articulates the internal process that can cause a player to give up, even when s/he is on the verge of winning. Sometimes especially when they are on the verge of winning. The […]
Aren’t formulas great? There’s so much pressure to get it right, and there are so many different ways we’re told to do it, it’s hard to know what to do. And if you’re like me, you’re spending a lot of time just kind of wandering (sometimes flailing) around, not really sure what you’re doing, so […]
This holiday time of year brings out the kid in us, which can be lots of fun. It can also mean that it brings out the Inner Wounded Child Who Never Got What They Wanted From the Holidays in us, which can be painful. Probably most of us have a combination of past disappointments and […]