Most people come to therapy because they’re stuck in some way. Their usual ways of dealing with things have stopped working and they’re not sure what else to do; their nervous system and coping strategies have been hijacked by past traumas. They are frustrated,unhappy, and distrustful of who they are. Before Human Design, I would […]
Psychotherapy
My 4 Top Game Changers
In my ongoing exploration of paths of transformation, I’ve tried a lot of different things. Some have been pretty good, some of been wrong-thing or wrong-time; a few have been life-changing. I wanted to share the top four of the life-changing variety. I’m not including things like “getting married” or “having kids,” though they certainly […]
Issues Big and Small
As a therapist, I’ve worked with people on issues that run the full gamut of life, from the devastatingly traumatizing to the relatively benign. To me, the issues are all real, all deserving of honoring. Some of my clients feel guilty about having trouble with issues they feel they should be able to just “get […]
Neurofeedback Intensive — Two Months Later
After doing the neurofeedback intensive – doing sessions twice a day for 30 days – I was curious to see how the transformations I experienced would hold up. Helpfully, two of my clients wanted to try it too, and they went through their own transformative process. So now we have an N = 3. Common […]
There is no There
One of the elusive promises that has pulled me forward and inspired many of my explorations has been the one that if I just find the right Answer – especially about who I am and what I’m “supposed” to be doing here in this lifetime – then I will get “there” and life will finally […]
Getting Unstuck With Gentle Dynamite — Intensive Neurofeedback
First let me say that I do better with shorter, more intensive experiences than longer, more drawn out and systematic experiences. I’m better at sprints than marathons. This experiment was definitely an all-out sprint, and would not be suited for those whose systems prefer marathons. Inspired by a post in a neurofeedback community, I did […]
How to be Successful in Life, and a Recipe for Guaranteed Failure
Aren’t formulas great? There’s so much pressure to get it right, and there are so many different ways we’re told to do it, it’s hard to know what to do. And if you’re like me, you’re spending a lot of time just kind of wandering (sometimes flailing) around, not really sure what you’re doing, so […]
Surrendering to What Is
After this past week’s elections, I’ve been thinking a lot about Michael Singer’s book, “The Surrender Experiment.” In it, he describes his life-long experiment with, and practice of surrendering to Life when Life clearly won’t let go. In this case, “surrendering” doesn’t mean becoming passive. It doesn’t necessarily mean giving up. What it does mean […]
The Myth of “You Can Be Anything”
There is a dearly held belief in our culture about the possibility of being anything in this lifetime. I think culturally it’s more about the possibility of opportunity – that if your passion is insects, you can become an expert in bugs. If you want to be an astronaut, there are paths you can take […]
Finding Inner Peace While Screaming Inside My Head
I’ve always been sort of intense. When people hear that they are often surprised, remarking how calm I seem, which I think is hilarious. A while back I was in my (super intense) workout class, and I was urging the instructor to put on electronic dance music — my favorite. A guy asked, “How […]